You are What You Eat

Some 7 years ago, I read a work that stated that what we eat determines what our body will be like in the next one year.

Nutritionists tell us that our bodies contain similar nutrients to the food we eat. In other words, the kinds of food we consume will affect our nutrient levels and over all, our health. This also applies to what we feed our minds and spirits with.

The kind of words, images, worldviews and writings we feast on in our day-to-day lives, will – to a large extent – influence our thinking, speech, conduct and overall ideology.

Many of us are aware that what we let in through our eye and ear gates can invade our souls. If they are beneficial, they gradually build you up and if they are not, they slowly erode your morals.

Show me a person who is genuinely sound spiritually and I will show you someone who has been feeding on good spiritual food.

There’s no magic about this. There’s no short-cut to it.

If a person is feeding his eyes with porn materials for instance, as the obscene images settle in his mind, his perception of people gradually begins to change.

Now, some people may not notice this change, but some do. Such a person begins to frequently use vulgar words; his eyes begin to “x-ray” people’s body parts and his thoughts would easily wander in sexual fantasies. He becomes overtly concerned with sexual themes and even dreams about them.

Someone once said, “The books in your library will tell me how far you will go.” Well, in a way, he’s right. But I don’t quite agree considering the influence that social media and other agents of learning wield on individuals.

A person can have a shelf full of good Christian books and still seek out spiritual junk food and even poisonous fruit elsewhere.

On the other hand, a person can have some not-too-sound books in his shelf but have good back up through sound Christian teachers and e-books for example.

Many Christians will not grow into spiritual maturity until they deal with what they spiritually and mentally feed on. It’s a simple principle that I’ve learnt and seen play out over and over again.

You cannot eat like a chicken and fly like an eagle. It’s not possible. Chickens sift through the soil to eat worms, grits and insects, but eagles eat fresh meat; they don’t feed on carcasses.

Eagles and chickens don’t live the same and don’t behave the same way. That’s why you can’t use the excuse of “But so-and-so does it, why can’t I?” Well, the answer is simple: because you are a child of God and you aim to fly high in life. Simple. You can’t be raised on a diet of worms and grow into a lion.

Many Believers wonder why they are spiritually weak; why doubt and confusion have taken over their souls; why they cannot live out the Christian life as they should; why they are experiencing demonic oppression; why they have not grown to any significant level.

You may not need to wonder too far – check what you are mentally and spiritually feeding on.

That rotten music or movie that “completes” your day; that website that “re-configures” your brain; that rabid heathen whose occult lectures you loll out your tongue at, or that friend whose gossipy chats move you in the emotional reverse gear. That book that makes you question the Word of God and saps your spiritual vitality.

Once you take out the trash your soul feasts on and change your mental and spiritual diet, your spiritual health will also change.

The Bible says we should guard our hearts diligently because out of it flows the springs of life (Prov. 4:23). What is in the spring of your heart will show in the buckets of your speech and action.

Have you ever come across a patient who keeps taking the same drug that is harming his/her body and yet keeps going to the doctor for help? It’s insanity. Such people need to be taken off their delusional treadmill.

Yes, stop the therapy today! Because you keep indulging the very attitudes, the same thoughts, the same spiritual junk food that brought you to therapy in the first place. This is what is called facing the truth.

I have observed that one of the secrets of intelligent people is: they listen and learn from other intelligent people. As you read the works of great thinkers, your mind is also stimulated to think.

Our minds are like photographic films, they collect images and can become a motion picture.

It has to start with you as an individual. What are your personal principles? What are your ethical and moral standards? What are the things that are dear to you? Do you value your relationship with God above the pleasures of this world?

As a Christian who is committed to the Lord, there are some pages you shouldn’t follow on social media. There are some applications that you shouldn’t register on. There are some music videos that are off-limit.

You don’t need an angel to descend from heaven to tell you these. You simply know this because the Spirit of God lives in you and the more you put out the filth and darkness from your life, the more freedom He has to work in you.

Take the step. Eat healthy.

Straight Talk on Sexual Self-Stimulation

A married man once wrote to a Christian counselor: “I was [sexually] abused when I was young. I’m so addicted to pornography and masturbation.”

Two single young men also shared their struggles:

I’ve been battling with masturbation for a long time now and it’s killing me. I notice I masturbate each time I feel depressed. I’ve prayed and done a lot still I find myself doing the same thing over and over again.”

I have a very big problem with both sex and masturbation. It has really gotten to me. I am a devoted Christian … yet I find it difficult to quit … I have planned to cut myself off media, phone and internet so as to stop going through porn sites and downloading its content … Why is stopping sex and masturbation too difficult for me, or is it my FATE? I am really confused.”

Sadly, sexuality is still a no-go area topic in many Christian circles. This is why I applaud Christians who summon the courage to open up about their personal sexual struggles.

I’ve come to realise that when such “uncomfortable” issues are swept under the carpet of church rules and strict conservatism, they not only fester but eventually become elephants in the pews.

Many people in the church today are suffering from silent frustration as a result of private problems that have created turmoils in their hearts. They can’t find anyone who understands or is able to handle the details of what ails them.

Sexual issues need to be openly discussed because they are crucial to life, and it’s an area where the devil is enslaving many believers.

I was told of a Christian guy in my undergraduate days who broke with “tradition” during a Bible study by telling how God helped him beat the sinful habit of masturbation.

Typical of hyper-conservative student fellowships, his audience looked on with shock and distaste, but he defied their countenances. As he was leaving the fellowship that evening, about five Christian brothers walked up to saying, “Please sir, I’m struggling with masturbation, can you help me?”

If we are really going to help people find freedom and healing, we’ll need to blow open the citadels of pretense and role-playing that the devil has used to wall us in.

Masturbation or “solo sex” is a hot topic on several fronts. A 2016 survey by TENGA, a sexual health and wellness company, indicates that 88 % of 1,200 Americans masturbate.

To remove the stigma from self-pleasure, this company launched “an online empowerment campaign that celebrates and encourages masturbation” called #DoItInMay.

Secular society has always lauded masturbation as a safe, healthy valve of release from sexual pressure.

Some scientists tell us that it boosts the mood; has a natural sedative effect; helps maintain body immunity; prevents prostate cancer, heart diseases and STDs and even confers a longer lifespan!

If one’s life is patterned by their claims, solo sex becomes a placebo to cure virtually all of life’s hitch. I guess a time would soon come when we will be told that if we don’t masturbate frequently, our brains will stop functioning and our hearts will stop beating!

From a scientific perspective, however, one needs to tread with caution before touting masturbation as a “silver bullet” to bodily infirmity.

Masturbation triggers the brain into releasing a flood of internal chemicals like dopamine, endorphins and serotonin into the bloodstream.

These natural “drugs” give quick, temporary escape and relief from stress, insomnia and anxiety. This can make masturbation a convenient “drug” for instant pleasure and self-medication.

It also results in a chemical dependency that people use to escape from boredom, negative emotions and the stresses of life.

We all know how drug addicts resort to drugs to escape from reality. Sexual self-stimulation works out the same way. Thankfully, the debilitating effects of addictions are not disputed by secular society.

Frequent masturbation stimulates acetylchlorine and parasympathetic nervous functions and when it is excessively done, large amount of this hormone and neurotransmitters are being produced, thus altering the body’s chemistry. This leads to fatigue, erectile dysfunction and pelvic cramps.

Even in the medical world, there are check and balances that govern drug use. That’s why pain relievers are given with prescriptions. When the body is made to naturally circumvent these regulations through masturbation, it becomes a form of self-abuse.

Many scientists, psychologists and even some Christian leaders argue that masturbation is not a sin. If that is the case, why then, do many men and women feel so guilty after indulging in it?

The ready-made answer that such people are conditioned by social indoctrination and upbringing doesn’t cut it. That guilt is an indication of our God-given conscience which must not be muffled with empty rationalizations.

This is why science, psychology and philosophy – albeit beneficial – cannot be our final arbiter of truth, ethics or morals. The Bible, God’s Word is.

Science sees man as a “higher animal” that is subject to all base instincts and desires, but the Bible dignifies man, stating that he is created in God’s image.

Psychology also fails to address the complexity and depravity of the human heart. The Encyclopedia Britannica presents a lengthy discussion on sexual deviations but adds that:

“Although most psychiatrists and psychologists consider masturbation an expected practice on the path to heterosexual relations, it serves equally to gratify in fantasy many of the sexual deviations discussed above” (16:610).

That is, masturbation can be fuelled by fantasies involving sexually debased acts like paedophilia, rape, sado-masochism, voyeurism, homosexuality, lesbianism and bestiality.

The human heart is so deceitful and depraved that most sex criminals usually start off by masturbating to fantasies of what they later indulged in.

With the way sex toys like strokers, dildos, sex dolls etc. are becoming lucrative even here in Nigeria, God’s view – not man’s opinions – of solo sex needs to be emphasised.

Granted, masturbation is not directly mentioned in the Bible and can’t be accurately termed as the “sin of Onanism,” but it’s still a sin because it involves lust of the mind (Matt. 5:28).

Virtually all sexual self-stimulation is accompanied by either sexual fantasies or pornographic materials. It cannot be imagined or carried on without committing the sin of lust.

It also fails the Bible’s eight fold test: what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy (Phil. 4:8).

Our body “is the temple of the Holy Spirit … You are not your own. You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body” (1 Cor. 6:19-20). Solo sex spiritually defiles our body.

God says we are to “put to death … whatever belongs to [our] earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires…” (Col. 3:5), but masturbation does the very opposite: it energizes the fleshy nature.

Furthermore, masturbation is a selfish act. God intended sexuality to help relieve a person’s loneliness, but solo sex does not relieve loneliness. In fact, one feels more lonely than ever after this sin.

Being immersed in one’s body sensations is a form of narcissism. As time goes on, self-pleasuring becomes the brain’s preferred method for achieving sexual gratification and this ultimately affects a healthy relationship with one’s spouse.

I am not writing this to lay a guilt trip on anyone struggling with this habit. What I’m saying is that it is a sin that one can repent of and forsake just like any other (1 Jn. 1:9).

There is one more reason why sexual self stimulation should be avoided: it often attracts sexual spirits called incubi (those appearing to be men) and succubi (those appearing as women).

These demon spirits are responsible for the sexual dreams many men and women frequently have.

These sex demons are also sought after in the occult and can invited by sexual fantasies. When these spirits latch themselves to people, they wield a web around them, draw away their virtues, destroy their potential and pump their demonic garbage into their lives.

In some cases where the demon already resides in the victim, it will control his or her hands to sexually stimulate himself or herself, at times after having an erotic dream.

One of the ways to know if masturbation has led a person into spiritual bondage is that, it becomes a besetting sin and he/she would be having relationship or marital troubles (if married). That individual might be oppressed by a demonic sex partner and may need to be ministered to.

Such persons would tell you that they feel more pleasure when they have sex in dreams with demons (who appear as very beautiful ladies or handsome men) or when they masturbate, unlike with their physical spouses. This problem is a very common one. I have personally met real Christians victimized by it.

The way out

Although there are no specific “formulas” to conquer masturbation, some steps are crucial.

1. Repent and forsake the sin. This involves getting rid of porn or sex materials. Because masturbation feeds off secrecy, sharing your struggles with someone mature is also good, but it’s not compulsory.

2. Know what triggers you. Some masturbation triggers are: depression, porn, indecent dressings, images of past sexual acts, erotic chats or phone calls, stories or TV shows that border on sexual themes.

A guy named Immanuel wrote:

“I can remember heavily masturbating to Rihanna’s Rude Boy’s music video immediately it was released till my organ got painful sores.”

Now if Immanuel is going to maintain his victory, he will have to avoid music videos or lyrics with sexual innuendos. Some are triggered by certain places, smells, gestures, words or objects.

A Christian guy once admitted he gets “triggered” to masturbate once he sees a boxer short. So know your own trigger and address it.

3. Filling one’s heart with God’s Word has a cleansing and renewing power (Ps. 119: 11; Rom. 12:2). Daily meditate on the Bible and control your thoughts

4. Resistance. You can only resist what you dislike. This involves:

a) directly resisting the urge to masturbate by avoiding compromising situations and exercising bodily control (1 Cor. 9:27).

You could be tensed up and unable to sleep and feel tempted to give in to it; but don’t yield. Endure hardness as a soldier and resist the sin (1 Tim. 2:2).

b) standing back on your feet if you have a relapse (Prov. 24:16). Don’t let the devil beat you down with guilt. Some people gain victory quickly, some don’t. Focus on Christ.

c) praying fervently, especially before going to bed. That is how to draw on the power of Christ (Mt. 26:41).

Years ago, a close friend shared with me how God set him free from the bondage of masturbation.

After praying one night, he went to bed and while he was asleep, he felt a strange pressure mount over his body. With his eyes still closed, he felt someone raise his hands up and make him say: “You spirit of masturbation, I renounce you in Jesus’ name!” and the pressure lifted.

Since that day, the urge to masturbate vanished. There is great power in Jesus Christ.

If you are struggling with this sin but not yet born again, I want to tell you that the Lord Jesus Christ died for your sins at the cross of Calvary and rose again for us to have a new life.

Repent of your sins and believe in Jesus and His sacrifice on the cross. Ask Him to forgive your sins and make you a new creature.