If there was ever a generation where the battle for sexual purity has escalated, it’s ours.
Some of the awful headlines on our newspapers read: “Christian pastor rapes 11 year old girl,” “Boy, 19 Caught Having Sex with Dog,” “Father rapes daughters, impregnates one” or “Man 28, rapes 8 year old boy.”
These tales are recounted sometimes with graphic details that betray the pretext of our hyper religious society. An e-mail from Abuja, Nigeria, to a columnist reads:
“I am 25 years old. I lost my father [at] 10 … I had a mentor, who saw me through school and helped me with a bank job … I live in the boys’ quarters of his house. He showers me with lots of gifts … But this man and his family are perverts! He has been having homosexual relationship with me since my undergraduate years. His first son, a 28-year old … also has sex with me. The first daughter also comes [to me] for sex! Even their last born, a 17-year-old girl seductively came to my room, for sex.
“The man’s wife forced me to have sex with her whenever her husband travelled abroad … This multiple affair remains a secret between me and each member of the family… I know I cannot pack out [of the house] without his consent if I still need my job. Is it bad to be tall and handsome? I am sick and tired of this sex slavery” (Sunday PUNCH, April 6, 2014, p. 48).
Of course, people practicing these stuff don’t have it written on their foreheads. In some nations, things have gone terribly down the line.
The act of incest is now being defended by some scholars of Baal are trying to break down societal walls against paedophilia with intellectual sophistry. They are even advocating for the redefinition of paedophilia as “intergenerational intimacy.” Wow, that’s a pretty nicer term you have there.
The London Telegraph (May, 1, 2010) reported a story of a 72 year old grandmother, Pearl Carter, who hired a surrogate to carry the baby of her own grandson and sex partner, Phil Bailey, 26.
She said “I am in love with Phil and he’s in love with me. Soon I’ll be holding my son or daughter in my arms and Phil will be the proud dad.” Intergenerational intimacy – right?
From a Biblical perspective, this surge of sexual perversions is expected:
“There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God” (2 Tim. 3:1-4)
It’s unrealistic to think sexual depravity will cease to exist on the earth or our continent. Unfortunately, some Africans adhering to an illusion of a morally superior African past, have a misguided belief that all forms of sexual perversions came from “Western colonization.”
The big question is: how can the church address the malaise of sexual disorders?
Death penalty for all sex perverts is a brutal alternative that has no bearing on public morality. It only drives such acts underground where they fester.
Uganda’s ethics minister, Fr. Simon Lokodo, who has been known to lead televised raids against pornography and erotic music videos, has called for police to raid restaurants often used by many Ugandans for “lunchtime sex.”
Such measures, though well-intentioned, are doomed to fail miserably. Why? “For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications…” (Mark 7:22-23).
There’s no political or religious law that can change a man’s heart. Yes, they may externally modify him, but they can’t change him from within. In fact, the more legalistic a society is, the more sexually depraved they tend to be.
Until the root of sexual depravity is properly identified and dealt with, it will keep growing even in the church.
This is why human measures are like attacking the branches of a sturdy, deeply rooted tree. From my little study, these are some roots of sexual depravity:
I. The influence of Demons
Unnatural sexual drives have certain demons attached to them. For instance, it’s natural for a woman to desire a man, but when she begins to sexually desire another woman or an animal, that’s unnatural, and it’s often fuelled by demons.
A Bible commentary explains that evil spirits “influence people to hinder and operate against wedlock by enticing them to meet the demands of the sex drives apart from the sanctity of marriage … Hence those who satisfy their sex needs through perversions – any of the ways contrary to what is approved by Scripture are under the control more or less, of demons.”
Demons can compel people into such sexual acts by bombarding their minds with it. “Since I was already hooked on porn,” says Joseph Sciambra, an ex-gay porn model, “thus began my dark descent into the world of homosexual promiscuity. Soon afterwards. I started hearing strange voices. They told me to do things; to go to places I had never been before. One of the first location they guided me was a gay sex club … I met my first lover there.”
Matthew Durham, the 20 year old American missionary who sexually molested 8 African orphan children confessed that he was made to do it by a demon guide named “Luke.”
Demons have no respect for theological degrees or church titles. They don’t care if you are a sanctified Methodist, a committed Baptist or a spirit-filled Pentecostal, once you open the door to them.
One Nigerian bishop who raped a 15 year old girl (who reportedly came to him for prayers) said: “I was surprised when I saw her pulling off her blouse and skirt. But before I knew it, I had a carnal knowledge of her.” That sounds a lot like demonic control.
II. Immoral entertainment
This includes movies, soaps, music videos, websites or stories promoting debased sexual acts. What a person feeds himself/herself with, will to a large extent influence his thought life.
Exposure to internet porn among youths has increased in the last decade, resulting in a morbid increase in rape and promiscuity. The sex acts depicted in porn videos are more or less rape.
Many porn stars are paid to convince the viewers that they enjoy what is being done to them. As more men are exposed to these things, these images gradually become a sexual turn-on for them.
And when a person is repeatedly exposed to that image, he begins to act out what he has been feeding on. This is why many sex offenders often start out as porn addicts.
3. Sexual molestation or assault
This is the most common root of sexual depravity. Sexual molestation, particularly in childhood, can negatively mould people’s life and personality.
It has been documented that addictions, mental illness and crass immorality can be traced to childhood sexual abuse. Both genders can fall victim of it.
Some cultures also promote these acts. There is a tradition in Ethiopia for example, where rape is a form of marriage proposal. When a young man wants to marry, he looks for a girl, kidnaps and rapes her until she becomes pregnant, then the elders confirm the union as legal.
The practice of paedophila is fully acceptable in Islam, and by implication in all Muslim-dominated societies. Several Muslim child sex rings have been arrested in western countries, leaving behind a trail of abused children who grow into troubled adults.
Majority of the porn or music stars with sexually explicit videos are victims of sexual abuse. Let me give some examples:
Madonna Ciccone – She was the first artiste to popularize the idea of women using sex, nudity and controversy to make up for a poor voice.
In her video, Justify My Love (1990) sadomasochism, bisexual sex and voyeurism were vividly depicted – which made MTV ban the video. She later admitted being raped at 19.
Jenna Jameson – the notorious “Queen of Porn.” She acted about 178 porn movies, directed four, and won 35 porn video awards.
Though now retired, she later admitted she was gang raped and beaten with rocks by 4 boys at the age of 16. She was also raped by her boyfriend’s uncle.
Pamela Anderson – the actress/porn model, famous for her honeymoon sex tape with her ex-husband, Tommy Lee.
In 2014, she admitted being molested by a female babysitter from the ages of 6-10, raped by a 25 year old man when she was 12 and gang raped by her boyfriend and 6 of his friends while she was 14.
Lady Gaga – the bisexual queen of weird, occult, blasphemous and sexually explicit videos also admitted she was raped at the age of 19 – an incident which she claimed gave her a lot of mental and emotional trauma.
4. False Worship/ Doctrines
There is a link between a rejection of God as revealed in Scripture, which is idolatry, and sexual perversions (Rom. 1:21-28).
A study of most ancient religions shows that their objects of worship were the human genitals. These vile gods are still bowed to by many modern false religions though in more disguised forms. Such cults open people up to perverse spirits.
Isaiah 19:14 “The LORD hath mingled a perverse spirit in the midst thereof: and they have caused Egypt to err in every work thereof, as drunken man staggereth in his vomit.”
The Hebrew word mavah translated as perverse means to be crooked and perverted. God judged the leaders of Egypt and made them crooked in their counsel, thinking and acts.
This perverse spirit as Matthew Poole commentary notes, is also the spirit of error or delusion; a disposition of mind very apt to mistake and to mislead people into foolish and crooked counsels.
People who follow false religious leaders are likely to have a perverse spirit which drives them into sexually perverse acts – homosexuality, bestiality, rape, lesbianism, paedophilia, sadomasochism etc.
Perverse spirits can also mask up such that a person they indwell will have what I call a hyper-spiritual quietism. They become very legalistic, religious, appear holy or even carry a big Bible, but at a certain “trigger” (a gesture, sight or dream), they engage in sexually perverse acts. Afterwards, they resume their holy motions, as if they are two different persons living in one body.
False doctrines like priestly celibacy, strict dietary laws, offering sacrifices or bathing at sea sides, invoking angels, “praying” naked (as practiced in African syncretic churches) can also open people up to seducing spirits (1Tim. 4:1).
5. Unhealthy Family upbringing
When a child grows up in a home without love and acceptance, he/she seeks that acceptance from someone else outside the home. This is what sets people up for child molesters.
As a child grows, he tries to mentally “escape” from that void through alcohol or drugs which breaks down his spiritual walls (Prov. 25:28) and he can experiment with what he would normally never do.
Also, when either of a parent are emotionally disconnected from a male or female child, it can result in a loss of gender identity.
It has been established that a foetus at 25 weeks can hear the mother just like an adult, so when a mother hates the baby she’s carrying or the father displays hate or neglect towards an unborn child, he/she can sense it and grow up with a warped view of men or women.
But the good news is this: sexual depravity can be repented of, forgiven and totally forsaken, once the root is known and dealt with by the power of Jesus Christ.