Islam: the Demise of Love

Mohammed Aisha

There have been several efforts by Muslim apologists – with much intellectual dishonesty of course – to paint Islam as a religion of peace, but not much to present it as a religion of love. This is a no-brainer. Why try to convince others of a quality that is obviously missing from your religion?

William Chittick, a Western scholar, assures us that: “Part of Islam’s intellectual heritage is a vast literature exploring and elucidating the nature of love.” He quotes Rashid Maybudi who calls the Quran “the story of love and lovers.”

He brandishes the views of 13th century Muslim writers like Tabrizi, Ibn Qayyim and Rumi, but quotes no part of the Quran or hadiths to back up his argument. Chittick was actually quoting the works of Sufis and Medieval free thinkers as representative of mainstream Islam.

Sufism, a system of Islamic mysticism, emphasizes love, inner meditation and spiritual union with Allah.

It was a sect developed when Orientalists realized that Islam was inferior to their religions and cultures, so rather than rejecting it, they tried to hide its savagery with philosophy; mask its beastly face with mysticism and mollify its crude deity with spirituality.

But love is the foundation of this universe and God is love (1 John 4:8). A religion that claims to be from God must have love as its hallmark. To understand Islam, however, we need to understand Muhammad. And to understand Muhammad is to understand Muslims. Do Muhammad’s teachings and lifestyle reflect God’s love?

The Quran attaches a negative notion to love in several places:

This is because they love the life of this world better than the hereafter: And Allah will not guide those who reject faith” (Sura 16:102)

And ye love wealth with inordinate love!” (Sura 89:20)

Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet. Women and sons, heaped up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well tilled land … but in nearness to Allah is the best of goals.” (Sura 3:14)

These verses reduce love to something carnal or evil. They demand that Muslims detach themselves from all things, including love for their spouses, parents, or children so as to get close to a distant Allah.

This twisted idea of love shines brightly in a Muslim leader’s article about Ibrahim’s pure submission by his willingness to sacrifice his son:

“So that he would leave nothing of attachment except to Allah. That is what we must do – kill our drives, volitions, desires, and our love- nullify everything but Allah. You and I need to annihilate the demons inside of us, and the evil inclinations that we sometimes disguise and claim as beautiful intentions” (The Message International, April 12, 2012)

Love for non-Muslims is also condemned:

O ye who believe! Take not My enemies and yours as friends (or protectors) – offering them (your) love even though they have rejected the Truth that has come to you, and have (on the contrary) driven out the Prophet and yourselves (from your homes), because ye believe in Allah your Lord!…” (Sura 60:1).

Ah! Ye are those who love them, but they love you not,- though ye believe in the whole of the Book. When they met you they say, ‘We believe.’ But when they are alone, they bite off the very tips of their fingers at you in their rage. Say: ‘Perish in your rage…” (Sura 3:119)

To anyone who knows the historical context, that first verse is a manipulative lie. The second one is meant to keep Muslims from giving or receiving love from non-Muslims. I call it the windscreen syndrome.

When a person driving a car views outside through a dirty or dusty windscreen, it will appear as if everyone else is dirty or the weather is foggy, whereas he only needs to wipe his screen clean.

Many Muslims are programmed to hate and distrust non-Muslims because their mind windscreen is befogged with hate and needs to be cleaned. There are other in-house rules:

And hold fast, all together, by the Rope which Allah (stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves…for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His grace, ye became brethren” (Sura 3:103)

How convenient. Anyone can love his co-religionists. Even a pack of hyenas have love for themselves. True love is the ability to love those outside your religious, racial, ethnic and social circle. How can a purported “book of love and lovers” omit this fundamental principle of love?

Jesus Christ asked “If you love those who love you, do you deserve a reward?… Are you doing anything remarkable if you welcome only your friends? Everyone does that!” (Matt. 5:46-47).

Even the Quran admits Christians love their Muslim haters: “…and nearest among them in love to the Believers [Muslims] wilt thou find those who say, ‘We are Christians’…” (Sura 5:85).

True Christians love those who hate them because they are of the Father in heaven who “makes his sun to rise on people whether they are good or evil” (Mt. 5:45).

On the other hand, Islam has no concept of fatherhood. Nowhere in the Quran is Allah introduced as a “father.” None of his “99 beautiful names” includes the word “father.” Allah has “neither sons nor daughters” (Sura 6:100).

Sura 5:15 is quite revealing:

And (both) the Jews and the Christians say ‘We are the children of Allah and His loved ones.’ Say: ‘Why then does He punish you for your sins?’ Nay, you are but human beings, of those He has created, He forgives who He wills and He punishes whom He wills…”

From this, it can be inferred that:

1. The Allah of Islam had a master-slave, rather than a Father-son relationship with Muhammad.

The relationship between a father and son is more loving and intimate than a relationship between a master and his slave. This proves the god of Islam is not the God of the Bible who is revealed as “our father, our redeemer” (Isa. 63:16).

Christians have not “received the spirit of bondage again to fear” but have “received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry Abba Father” (Rom. 8:15).

In Islam, the greatness of Allah trumps out relationship or love. Muslim slaves live in a perpetual state of bondage to fear to earn Allah’s acceptance. Thus, the more Muslims love Allah, the lesser they love people.

2. Muhammad had a skewed view of fatherhood. He didn’t understand spiritual adoption and also assumed that a father shouldn’t discipline his children.

But the Bible says “Endure your discipline. God corrects you as a father corrects his children. All children are disciplined by their fathers” (Heb. 12:7). Discipline doesn’t negate fatherhood.

Muhammad didn’t seem to know much about fatherhood. His own father died before he was born. He lived with his grandfather and later his uncle Abu Talib, and thus didn’t experience a father-son relationship. His ideas about fatherhood came from his experiences. This is why he tailored his Allah along that line.

3. Muhammad’s god has a warped sense of justice. He forgives whom he wills and punishes whom He wills. His forgiveness is not guaranteed for the guilty and his vengeance can fall on the innocent. This is sadism.

God’s judgement will fall only on those who deserve it. He will not “slay the righteous with the wicked” (Gen. 18:25).

The Prophet’s love stories?

One Muslim wrote an article in a newspaper saying:

I can find no love story more powerful, more spiritually uplifting, more awe-inspiring as that of Prophet Muhammad and Khadijah. It is a shining example of what an ideal marriage is, and if I ever claim that I love my wife, I must gauge my actions with that of the Prophet” (Dr. Hesham Hassaballa, Daily Sun, February 15, 2008, 38).

How “powerful” was their love story? Khadija was a wealthy widow, aged 40 who had many servants, including Muhammad aged 25.

According to Tabari’s biography (3:832), she “sent a message to Muhammad inviting him to take her” as a wife.

Muhammad was reluctant, so she brought her own father, made him drunk, then sent for Muhammad and his uncles and her father married them while still intoxicated. It was such an unusual marriage that could only be contracted under the influence of alcohol.

Women who emulate Khadija today are called “sugar mamas” of the manipulative variety. There is no report of Muhammad ever working after marrying Khadija. His fingers were all dipped in mama’s feasts. This is why he became poor after her death.

In fact, there wasn’t a single instance where it’s recorded that Muhammad took care of the 10 children they had. He was too busy retreating into his physical and mental caves. The same emotional detachment and apathy with which he was raised was the same he gave his own children.

Dr. Hesham informs us that: “At a time when it was a common custom to have multiple wives, the Prophet did not marry anyone else while he was with Khadijah.”

Of course, since Khadija was the one who had the money and was older. Muhammad was just a poor employee of hers. It was his marriage to her that made him wealthy, so he had to comply. It was like a contract marriage; what’s love gotta do with it? It was after her death he threw off his mask and became a sexual butterfly.

Dr Hesham continues: “Most of these wives were widows, whom the Prophet married to care after them, or they were the daughters of prominent Arab chieftains, so that the Prophet could form a cohesive Muslim society out of fiercely (barbaric) Arab culture.”

Yes, most of his wives were widows. But why did he have to marry them to care after them? For example, if the president of Nigeria is going to help all the widows in his country, does he have to take them to his bed? The Muslim mind reasons in an amazing way.

If Muhammad married his wives because of their Arab pedigree, that means he didn’t marry them for love. He only saw them as tools to further his own political and sexual conquests. After Khadija’s death, he married Sawda, apparently to cater for his home needs. She wasn’t his favourite because the hadiths later described her as “old and fat.” Hafsa was also given to him by Umar.

Apart from these two, every other woman Muhammad married was either a beautiful virgin or a beautiful divorcee or widow. In Aisha’s case, she was barely 6 years old when Muhammad had a (wet?) dream about her (Bukhari 9:140). By the way, how did Muhammad’s sex with a toddler “form a cohesive Muslim society?”

He married Zaynab because of her beauty. The same for Mariyah and others. Most islamic marriages follow this trend; the “powerful” husband always wants a younger wife to satisfy his lust while the older wife gets dumped like garbage.

Sura 4:129 says in part “And if you must marry another wife, do not incline excessively to one and leave the other like a thing suspended.” Muhammad didn’t live up to this verse. He didn’t equally love his wives as he had favourites.

Islamic scholar, Muhammad Haykal, wrote that he “loved her [Aisha] more than any of his wives” (Life of Muhammad, Islamic Publications Bureau, 1982, 336). It was recorded that Muhammad “often ignored some of his wives, and avoided others on many occasions, precisely in order to discourage their abuse of his compassion” (p. 436).

Haykal also noted that there were constant fights in Muhammad’s home due to the pocket money he allocated, or the honey Zaynab served. One day while he was with Aisha, “his other wives delegated Zaynab, daughter of Jahsh, to go in and, in their name, to accuse him of injustice and unfairness to them, and to plead that his love for Aisha was a violation of the code which he himself has set down of a day and night for each of his wives” (Ibid, 437).

Ideal marriage anyone? Does this even look like a happy home? In a Christian marriage, a husband is to love his wife as his own body (Eph. 5:27). And it takes a person who has received God’s love to show love.

This is why there is a crisis of love in Islam, because a person who has not been shown love from childhood or taught how to love, or is trying to appease a god of fear cannot give love. Many Muslim parents are not even capable of loving their own children. This is why many Muslims are devoid of humanity, filled with hate, torn apart and bereft of love.

The more devoted to Islam a person is, the less he is able to love others. Muhammad said: “None of you truly believes until I am more beloved to him than his child, his father and all the people” (Muslim 1:71)

Devoted Muslims have their minds and emotions taken away. This is why they strap explosives on their own children. When a Christian woman now marries a Muslim out of shallow sentiments or for money, he will suck her dry until she is bereft of life and reduced to a shell. Knowing Jesus Christ is the only key to true love. There is no love in Islam.

The Prophet and his Demons


Muhammad’s evil ideology can be explained from a Biblical point of view: he was led by evil spirits.

Many Muslims find that statement offensive, but these facts cannot be brushed aside since even the Hadiths and biographies recorded certain unusual experiences Muhammad had.

Understanding the origins of Muhammad’s visions is important. It reveals the spirits behind Islam which control those who submit to it.

According to Islamic records, Muhammad received his call to be a prophet while he was meditating (another version: sleeping) in the cave of Hira which was about 40 miles away from Mecca.

A spirit was said to have appeared to him holding a brocade, saying “Read!” When Muhammad asked “what shall I recite?” the being squeezed him so tightly that he nearly died and asked him to read again. At the third time, the being said “Read in the name of thy Lord who created, who created man of blood coagulated” (The Life of Muhammad, translation of Sirat Rasulallah by Alfred Guillaume, 1955 p. 106).

After the spirit left, Muhammad ran home screaming to his wife, Khadija, “Cover me! cover me!!” and they covered him until his fear was over.

Before this experience, Muhammad had joined a mystic group called the Hanifs who used to meditate in the caves of Hira.

Occult meditation has been an integral part of all Eastern religions and it’s utilized to contact the spirit realm and spirits that masquerade as various deities. Since Muhammad was indulging in this, it’s not a surprise he was visited by a spirit being.

The words of this being is also questionable. Man was not made from coagulated or frozen blood, but from the dust (Gen. 2:27). An angel of God would definitely know this.

And why would God’s angel be terrorizing a man (said to be an illiterate) to read? Doesn’t that sound suspicious?

After this experience, Muhammad didn’t believe he saw an angel of God, given the horrifying experience he had. Khadija then took him to her cousin, Waraqa, a “Christian” priest said to be versed in the Scriptures. Waraqa told Muhammad that what he saw in the cave must have been angel Gabriel who also appeared to Moses (Sira p. 107).

Now, if Waraqa had truly known the Bible as it was claimed, he should have known that angel Gabriel didn’t appear to Moses but rather to Daniel, several centuries after.

Based on this error, Muhammad began to think he was also a prophet like Moses and nicknamed the spirit inspiring him as “Gabriel.”

Waraqa however said:

“Send for [Muhammad] so that I may question him and hear what he says and talk to him. For I am afraid it may be someone other than Gabriel, for certain devils imitate him and by so mislead and corrupt some men. This can result in a man become confused and even crazy whereas he had been of sound mind” (Ibn Kathir, The Life Of the Prophet, Al-Sira al-Nabawiyya, 1:297).

On Biblical grounds, Waraqa was spot on here. This “angel Gabriel” Muhammad was said to have encountered in the cave is very different from the angel Gabriel of the Bible. When he appeared to Daniel:

While he was speaking, I fell face down in a deep sleep. But he lifted me to my feet...” (Dan. 8:18)

When Gabriel suddenly came flying in at the time of the evening sacrifice … he explained: Daniel, I am here to help you understand the vision” (Dan. 9: 21-22).

Angel Gabriel was friendly and helpful, not violent or forceful towards Daniel.

Angel Gabriel also appeared to Zechariah proclaiming that he would give birth to John the baptist who would “make ready a people prepared for the Lord [Jesus]” (Lk. 1:1-20). And he appeared to Mary telling her Jesus would “be great and will be called the Son of God Most High” (Lk. 1:26-38).

On the other hand, the “Gabriel” of Muhammad denied both the Lordship and Sonship of Christ.

Now, why would God send an angel to say one thing to several people and then send him to one pagan man six centuries later to say the opposite? Evidently, Muhammad didn’t encounter an angel of God.

Perhaps to assure his readers that the Gabriel from the cave was confirmed by a Christian, a Quranic translator wrote in his introduction that “Khadija tried the spirit.” By what criteria did Khadija try this spirit?

A hadith says that one day while she was alone with Muhammad (who could see the spirit), she asked him to sit on her lap and he said the spirit was still standing there. Then she exposed her body and Muhammad said the spirit had disappeared. She then declared that the spirit must be an angel of God (Mishkat al-Masabih IV, 154).

According to this silly “test,” a good angel is one that avoids looking at a woman’s nudity! That would have been so absurd, if it wasn’t so laughable. I wonder how much Khadija knew about angels or demons.

From the little recorded about her, she was apparently a heretical Christian. Even by Islamic standards, her deduction is invalid because Muhammad said a woman’s witness is half that of that of a man (Sura 2:282).

As the new Arabian prophet “like Moses,” Muhammad began to boldly recite what the spirit was giving him, but he soon became very depressed and began to contemplate suicide:

“He said ‘I have been meditating throwing myself from a mountain crag, but while I was so meditating, he [Gabriel] appeared to me and said ‘O Muhammad I am Gabriel, and thou are the messenger of God” (Bukhari 9:87:111).

When you compare this to the many prophets in the Bible who encountered God’s angel, you won’t find a single place where anyone of them became depressed and suicidal as a result of that encounter. Remember, Waraqa said evil angels cause mental illness.

When Muhammad left Mecca, he claimed to have met with some spirits/jinn in the desert of Taif and convert some of them to Islam. (If they were good spirits why did they have to be “converted”?).

The statements of these demons are contained in an entire chapter (72) of the Quran. Muhammad told his Muslim followers:

“There is no one among you but a companion among the jinn has been assigned to him’ They said, ‘Even you, O Messenger of Allaah?’ He said ‘Even me, but Allaah has helped me with him and became a Muslim (or I am safe from him) so he only enjoins me to do that which is good” (Muslim, 2814).

These demon guides are called qareen in Islam. Notice that Muhammad himself didn’t deny having a demon guide, but lied that he has made him to become a “Muslim” and he assists him to do good. Actually, Muhammad was outright evil, proving that he was demonized.

On another occasion, Muhammad was sick for 2 or 3 nights. “Then a lady (the wife of Abu Lahab) came and said ‘O Muhammad! I think that your Satan has forsaken you, for I have not seen him with you for two or three nights!” (Bukhari 66:60:475).

Even the Meccan pagans knew he had a demon guide. No Godly prophet in the Bible had demon guides working for or assisting them. That is witchcraft.

The hadiths described how Muhammad used to act whenever he was said to be receiving messages from his “Gabriel.” Such manifestations were disturbing. Little wonder many of the Arabians (who were familiar with demonic activity) knew he was demon-possessed and rejected his claims (Q 81:22, 69:41).

(a) He said: “sometimes it [revelations] comes to me like the ringing of a bell and that is the most troublesome to me” (Mishkat IV, 360). Yet Muhammad himself said elsewhere: “The bell is the musical instrument of Satan” (Muslim, 24:5279).

(b) Aisha reported: “I saw him while the revelation descended on him on an intensely cold day then it left him while his brow steamed with sweat” (Mishkat IV, 360). Extreme perspiration is a common experience spiritists have during mediumship.

(c) He would fall “down unconscious on the ground with both his eyes [open] towards the sky” (Bukhari 6:448). This is how demons manifest (cf. Mk. 9:20).

(d) He would tremble as he laid on the ground like someone having a convulsion (Bukhari 1:4).

(e) He would hear and see things others couldn’t (Bukhari 4:458). These phenomena are called clairaudience and clairvoyance.

(f) He would sometimes snore like a camel. Or sound similar to bees (Bukhari 2:16:354). Demons growl or shriek through people.

(g) He said: “sometimes the angel assumes the form of a man for me and talks with me” (Mishkat IV, 360). This is called materialization.

Anyone familiar with the occult or demonology knows about these experiences which are demonic in nature.

There is not a single prophet of God in the Bible having such strange manifestations when receiving messages from God. Muhammad was deceived by a demon disguised as “an angel of light.”

The messages inspired by this spirit have prevented many Muslims from the truth in Christ and drive them to hate and kill those who follow Him.